I want to take my wife out dancing, drinking, on many super fun dates, such as bbqs, sports bars, stripped clubs, shooting pool, a nice fancy restaurant, candle light dinners, having sex in back of a mini van etc,etc but she absolutely refuses to go out with me. She is very SUPER STUBBORN, OLD FASHION, AND BORING....she just wants to be a indoors house wife, all the time and does not want to join me, in having super fun in life in general. She is very very closed minded, while I am a very open minded person. She always hangs out with her family of brothers, sisters and mother. Goes with them everywhere, but hardly ever joins me, to just go out together and just have plain fun. I love her to death, but I am extremely super unhappily married to her. I am so frustrated, stresses out, miserable, very angry and depressed about this..her performance as a WIFE in general.I am 40 and she is 39. We are both very healthy!How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??sorry to say this my friend, you married you a fuddy-dud-dee.
what woman can refuse a time out like that. now i can understand have sex in the mini-van, it may just be a little over the top for a extremely conservative person, but just going out in general is something else. why is she acting like an old, cripple person. 40 years old is not that old. in fact that's is when (hopefully, you have life figured out and ready to party until death do you part) geez, even my 50 something parents have more fun then her.
abe, she is going to turn you into a old man if you keep
(******** with her. you need to find you another woman who still feels fun and energetic.
come on, how much fun can she be having hanging with her brothers, they must don't have no woman (bad grammer i know). trust me, i do not kick it with my brother like that and we are very close.
now, i am a homebody some people has told me, but i would down and naughty with my man in heart beat. it is pure adreneline. i would hump him in the car (only if it was in the garage with doors shut). i don't know if the public is ready to see all this @$$ in the air (lol). they just couldn't handle it (wink).How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??Ever think that you just shouldnt have gotten marred? YOu should have realized your extreme dfferences when you were dating. It is your own folly for marrying someone soo different. You ma a commitment to her and said you would love her for who she is. You can ot change her and it is wrong for you to try. If it is a true problem then do her the favor of asking for a divorce. She deserves better than just being your entertainmentHow can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??Ask her why she won't go out with you.Ask her to go out have a date night twice a month and let her pick the place the first time and next time you pick the place. Make sure the place you pick is kind of tame to start.How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??Ok...if she was like this before ( I'm guessing she was ) then you shouldn't have married her. I know you're probably thinking a lot of good that will do you now, but still......People have no right marrying someone who is one particular way with the hope of changing them into a person they are not. If this is the case you are pretty much screwed. YOU picked her and you will have to deal with it.
If she used to be more outgoing and has since changed then you need to tell her in a very straighforward way that she has changed and not for the better. Tell her you NEED someone who will do some of these things and that's part of the reason you married her. It's unfair and misleading if she presented herself as a certain person and then decided to change. When one person isn't happy and isn't getting what they need they tend to wander elsewhere - right or not.........How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??tell her! lol i'd love to do all that stuff! except strip clubs... that's a nono... lol but hey, it sounds like you're kinda going through something. talk to her. you love her and she loves you. you'd hate to lose eachother, right? so tell her EVERYTHING!How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??I'd have to agree with SicillianMomma.How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??ok
so you married wrong
divorce her
you can't make a horse drink water
and as such you cannot change your boring wife's ways
if anything she might be a better fit for a guy who appreciates much less likes a boring hubby
and that's not you
why people try to make a square peg fit into a round hole never seems to amaze me
keep in mind in any relationship
BOTH parties are replaceable
so divorce her and find the exciting wife you always dreamed of and quit compromising like you did when you married you wife
remember it ALL your fault that you married her
you accepted her the way she is
so quit your whiningHow can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??Why did you marry her if you did not like the type of person she was? You can't change your wife sorry. Just like she couldn't change you if she wanted to. people don't usually turn into someone else just becasue you don't like who they are.How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??Hire a bunch of escorts and bring the strip club home to her......that'll warm the scene up........How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??looks like its time to have a serious talk with her, and let her know how unhappy you are even though you love her. if she won't change then you have to decide do you want to stay in a marriage like this. maybe she would be willing to do some of the things you mentioned as a start. i dont think being old fashioned she will have sex in a car, stip clubs, sports bars. ask her to go out to eat at a nice place, and some dancing, bbq's. looks like she has always been this way, but tell her life is to short to not do anything for fun.How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??You say you are open-minded and want to go out and have fun with your wife. I respect that. Since your wife doesn't seem interested in the activities you are suggesting (bars, strip clubs) then perhaps you can ask her what types of things she is interested in and take her to those type of events. What types of activities does she engage in when she hangs out with her family? That's a big clue.
The question you must ask yourself is this: are you interested in having fun with your WIFE or in doing the things YOU want to do and having your wife tag along?
There must be compromise. However, you can't CHANGE your wife. She is the person she is, and you are the person you are. You can only change yourself.
If you truly want to have fun with your wife, I'm sure you will be able to do it. It might look different from the kind of fun you would choose, but as open-minded as you are I'm sure you will give it a try and you'll probably end up enjoying it.
I hope this helps!How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??Sounds like you need a close guy friend if you are wanting to go to sports bars or shooting pool.
I dont' really understand a wife who doesn't enjoy the same activities as her husband, but maybe she's just shy.
Try asking her what one activity she would like to go do. Maybe go to a movie or go have a picnic. Then the next week plan something you want to do. Go back and forth.
If she is just not willing to participate, you seriously need to sit her down and tell her how unhappy you are. Has she really changed that much since y'all were dating or has she always been like that? By the way, this is not an excuse to cheat on her so don't even go there.How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??It seems like you have two choices; You can leave her, count your losses and find better, and trust me there is much better. Or you can compromise with her and slowly get her to learn how to have fun with you again and reconnect. The reason I say compromise is that you may have to find an activity you know specifically that she would like to do. This may not be your cup of tea. You are going to have to be willing to try to enjoy her things and take some serious initiative on them if you want her to eventually be willing to give a little. You know her by now so you can think of something which will show your love and commitment. This should be meaningful to her if she wants to be reached.How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??You need to express exactly how %26quot;unhappy%26quot; you are with your relationship the way it is.
If she doesn't understand what is at risk here, she may just blow you off (sorry to get you excited there for a moment).
I really don't think what you are asking for is anything outrageous.
I really think it would spruce up your marriage.
But you must let her know how you are feeling.
Because she really does need to change this or things are just going to keep getting worse.
And eventually it will come between you 2.
If I knew how important it was to my husband, to do something to spruce up our marriage, believe me I would do it.
But you must let her know how it's affecting you.
Good luck
I wish you the best
And I give you alot of credit for trying so hard to make things better ;)How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??Instead of going out for drinks stay home and make a few for her, instead of going to the strip club strip for her and maybe she will return the favor. Start slow maybe buy a sex game or play truth or dare, childish but as adults you can really do anything. Good luck.How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??your wife sound like my hubby a little. coincidence huh?How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??You cannot. Shouldn't have married her in the first place.How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??Maybe get her a make over and antidepressants too. Maybe she would like you to spend time with her family too. Also it seems to me you have drifted apart. Do remember your vows. And maybe its just not her but your actions? Everthink of that?How can I change my Old Fashion, boring WIFE guys??Not for nothing but just because she doesn't like strip clubs and sports bars doesn't mean she's boring. You should be happy she likes being with her family and isn't out carousing with other men. Sounds to me like your a 40 year old child wanting to be a party animal and your wife is a responsible family woman who takees life easy. I'm sure your performance as a husband is making her disapointed, love her for who she is you married her this way and if you didn't like her than what makes you think you were going to like her now? It seems to me, you need counseling, you both sound as though you are not happy together. It may be time to seek professionals help.
